Questions are wonderful. In fact, we encourage young school children to ask questions in hopes they will foster the habit to serve them well into their adult years.
Questions open the mind and the heart to new levels or awareness. Unfortunately, many of us do not question our basic thoughts and instead question other people’s thoughts exclusively.
We spend lots of time judging and criticizing and blaming other people for their decisions and put ourselves in the place of righteousness. If we in fact do take time to question our beliefs we would be greatly surprised and shocked that much of what we live our lives by are just other people’s ideas we have adopted because we thought they were someone with authority!
There is a book entitled QBQ! The Question Behind the Question: Practicing Personal Accountability at Work and in Life by John G. Miller that I highly recommend to those who are brave enough to look within their own thoughts and mind.
In a nutshell the book recommends 3 ways to change your thinking:
1. Begin with “WHAT” or “HOW”, and not “Why”, “When, or “Who”.
2. Contain an “I”
3. Focus on Action.
Instead of waiting for someone to make something happened to make your experience better be devoted to uncovering any fear, resistance or unwillingness to making it happen for yourself. Stop the blame game and the “woulda’, coulda’, shoulda” and replace these with how YOU can take the necessary action steps to make the situation better.
